Spiritualism and Relationships

Now before I start, I have to say that I’m no Oprah or Dr. Ruth – so you’ll have to bear with me on this one, however I do have a background in psychology which has to at least help in understanding the issues that both male and female spiritualist have in relationships especially when their partner is not involved or does not understand spiritualism.

So your living your life as normal as can be and you get a tap on your shoulder from one of God’s “spiritual” scouts. So you pop along and try out for the “spiritual” team and realise that this is what you’ve wanted to do all your life/why you were given a gift to communicate with spirit and everyone thought you where mad/or more countless other reasons, delete as applicable.

So you find out what it’s all about, join a development circle, speak to other mediums etc and over a period of time the curtains of life open up and you can see the world in a way that it really is (or maybe this is only my experience!!).  You realise that something has to be done to help people move away from materialism, greed, selfishness and you try and focus on helping people and giving out good Karma.  Sounds great and your doing a good job, but the person your living with doesn’t “get it” and even if you used crayon’s with very simple pictures they still wouldn’t “get it”.

Now I don’t want to insult anyone’s intelligence here.  There is a difference between understanding it and getting it.  Our partners can understand it (this is the intelligence bit), but they do not “get it”. They do not see the world the way we do since the penny is hanging on and hasn’t dropped for them yet.  The trouble is, the penny may never drop in their life, so re-incarnation it is then I hear you say, well maybe that’s God’s will. Maybe in their next life they will “get it”.

Our partners may tolerate our “interest” in spiritualism but there are more important things than God, global warming, famine, materialism, greed, wars, disease – The ironing has to be done, the shopping has to be done, negative energy generated from arguments about why things are not done etc.  Do they not understand that if they took a more relaxed and calm approach to things that life would be so much happier and easier.

Couple FightingAs spiritualists we are well aware of the affects negative energy has on our bodies and negative people are something that we all try and keep away from (energy vampires), however, how can we explain this is partners/friends/family without them ringing up the local mental hospital? Especially if someone who is close to you is a negative/argumentative person?  Well, I’ve no answer to this so I’m putting it into the same category as “What is the meaning of life”. Answers on a postcard!!

The trouble is with today’s world is that we are being bombarded psychology from all kinds of media telling us that if we don’t have product X, then our life will be miserable etc.  Materialism and greed seems to be running and ruining the planet.

Our partners/friends/family are sometimes focused on the things that they want in life (keeping up with the Jones) that they don’t look back to see what they have or have accomplished. Do they even think about how lucky they are regarding their health, financial situation, nice house etc, all these things they take for granted because they don’t “get it”.

Now I’m not saying to leave the domestic chores, but is it worth having an argument over them?

People who have NOT embraced spiritualism and have NOT opened their eyes to the bigger picture are focused and themselves and their immediate need.  Which is something (as spiritualist) we have hopefully moved away from – stop being selfish and start being selfless.  Asking “What can I do for you?”, rather than saying “What can I get from you?”.  The law of Karma applies, what up give out you get back.

So, my advice to spiritualists who are single – If your looking for love, try and find someone who is also spiritual – it will make things so much easier!

If you have friends or family who are energy vampires, keep them at a distance.

Written By: Alan Maher